Looking for online couples therapy with expertise in autism or ADHD?
At Bzonder we offer (online) couples therapy specifically for couples in which one or both partner have ADHD, ADD or autism (ASD). You are also welcome to contact us for regular couples therapy via LoveShrinks (Bzonder) if neither of you has an existing diagnosis.
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When to choose Couples Therapy (Autism / ADHD)ADHD
You relationship may have started with intense love, and developed into a deep sense of connection. But someone so close to you can also trigger intense emotional pain and frustration. A relationship is never without highs and lows and you may get stuck in negative patterns. When stress and emotions run high you are unable to view and understand each other on an objective level. You react from a place of hurt, driven by the pain and confusion those emotions bring.
You get stuck in a pattern of miscommunication, negativity and misunderstanding. Underlying needs and desires often go unspoken or are misunderstood. The connection between you is gone and it becomes difficult to interact with each other in a natural, constructive way. When one or both partners have autism/ASD or ADD/ADHD it can greatly affect your relationship. When you notice that your relationship has been costing you more energy than it gives for a long period of time, or there are recurring conflicts or problems, it’s wise to speak to a therapist.
Getting couples therapy is recommended when you recognize one or more of the following issues:
- You experience personal issues due to the problems in the relationship
- Your partner is also struggling with the impact of these problems in the relationship
- You have been diagnosed with autism/ASD or ADD/ADHD or suspect this may be a reason for the difficulties in your relationship
- You find yourselves getting stuck in the same recurring arguments and discussions
- You have children who are affected due to your relationship issues
- The feeling of connection in your relationship is disappearing or is completely broken
- You feel misunderstood by your partner and you can’t figure out how to fix it
What effect can couples therapy (Autism / ADHD) have on your relationship?
At Bzonder, the goal of couples therapy for autism and/or AD(H)D is to repair and strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner. We take into account the unique dynamics and challenges that neurodiversity can bring into a relationship. The goal is for both of you to feel safe to be yourselves, to improve communication and (re-)discover the emotional bond you share. As a result, you’ll feel more secure, supported, and connected within your relationship.
How does couples therapy (Autism / AD(H)D) work?
Couples therapy can take place through single sessions or as a part of a longer-term trajectory. In single sessions, the focus is on the here and now, without a fixed structure or plan involved. In case you are looking for more continuity and depth, you can read more infromation below about a trajectory.
Your trajectory starts with an intake. We explore your current situation, what you have already tried and what your goals are? Together, we look at the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship. Starting couples therapy (Autism / AD(H)D) can be an intensive process, with multiple regular sessions at the beginning. Over time, the number of sessions usually decrease as progress is made. The sessions take place online through videocall.
During the couples therapy we look for negative patterns of communication that have developed between you. Beneath intense reactions, such as anger or withdrawing, other emotions are usually hidden such as pain and loneliness. These milder emotions are lost beneath intense ones, meaning they’ve become invisible. By discovering these underlying emotions we can clearly pinpoint where the pain really comes from and what both partners’ actual needs are. By communicating these needs towards one another you can find a way back to eachother. In this next phase we focus on strengthening or and/or increasing this connection between you. By doing assignments during and outside therapy sessions, you will work on insight and changing the dynamics between you. Due to the importance of learning new patterns, it’s important that you also do these assignments at your own time. This way you will learn to avoid falling back into old negative patterns.
At LoveShrinks and Bzonder we work with different approaches such as Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT focuses on the underlying emotions and the needs of both you and your partner. You learn to understand each others emotions better. The type of coaching is adapted to your needs and goals. More often than not, we use a combination of methods to provide the most effectie support.
Why Bzonder
At Bzonder we focus a lot of attention on who you are as a human being. Bzonder consists of a team of enthousiastic professionals with experience in coaching, training and treatment. Not just based on a diploma, but from expertise gained while working within psychological health care. This means you don’t just get ‘a coach’, but a professional who knows exactly what they’re talking about. Bzonder is specialised in diagnosing and coaching clients with autism and ADHD/ADD. Together we want to make relationships more fun and enjoyable.
What is important to know before you start with Couples Therapy?
Relationship therapy can lead to valuable insights and growth. At the same time, it is important to understand that sessions can be intensive and complex. Due to the intricate dynamics and emotional sensitivities that often come into play, progress can sometimes be challenging. There is also always the possibility that coaching may not yield the desired results or may place additional pressure on the relationship by uncovering emotional pain points. These emotional pain points are not the result of the coaching itself, but often exist prior to the process and may be avoided in some relationships. For successful relationship coaching, it is essential that both partners are fully committed to facing the challenges together and are willing to confront difficult emotions both within themselves and with each other.
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If you feel that your symptoms might fit within ADHD or ADD, you can also take our brief ADHD or ADD test first. If you think your symptoms could fall under autism, you can also take a short autism test.
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✓ No GP referral necessary
✓ No long waitlist
✓ Suitable for adults (18+)
✓ Online from anywhere in the world